返回列表 回復 發帖

6632

Flickr/alikai My girlfriend and I have had a great, loving, romantic relationship for three years now. The sex is still great too, but we both kinda fancy the idea of having a threesome (having another lady join us as a one-time-only deal). We are not looking for a polyamorous relationship, just something a little different under the sheets. Would such an experience be harmful to our relationship? Are we getting into "bad" territory?
Anna says: Doesn't seem like it. Assuming y'all are both on the same page about what you want,nike free run, who you want, and what that might mean for your relationship. Threesomes can be tricky because as hot as they may seem in our fantasies, the realities of the situation can play out very differently. (Is there any good way to excuse yourself from an orgy?)
The most important thing you can do is to communicate a lot. You do not want to go into this with a "we'll just see what happens!" attitude because that kind of devil-may-care approach is what leads to crying, resentment, and reality TV shows about midgets. This is going to sound super business, but seriously, make a spreadsheet. Fill it with three columns: This stuff is OK, this stuff might be OK, and this is not OK at all.
Then try to think up everything that might happen and assess how you feel about it. For instance, will you do it at your place or theirs? Will you spend the night together? How do you feel about spooning? Are there acts that are sacred to the two of you that you don’t want the third person to get in on? This might sound like a bit of a killjoy to spontaneity, or the opposite of hot, but I’m of the mind that good sex often requires planning. Especially when you add more people to the mix. And don’t skip the talk about safety either. There’s a persistent myth that lesbians can’t give each other STIs, which is made worse by the fact that lesbians get tested less often than straight chicks, due to the whole no-pregnancy-scares shtick, as well as the prejudice queer women face in the health care system generally.
Read the rest at AfterEllen.Advertise on MotherJones.comIf You Liked This, You Might Also Like...Inside West Point&039;s Lesbian SubcultureKatherine Miller came out this week. But since May, she's detailed a secretive lesbian world on a popular blog.The Hook Up: Relationship Advice For the GasesCitizens of Lesbos Finally Taking Action Against Name-Stealing Gay WomenOh dear. A group of plaintiffs from the Greek island of Lesbos begins their quest in court today to stop...One More Thing about the Oscars...Lesbian AttireWhat is a butch (albeit soft butch) dyke to wear to host the Oscars? A dress with lots of makeup, like Jodie Foster (whose walk totally gives it away,http://www.nikefree.biz, anyway)? Or a tux? I'm sure Ellen would rather have worn a full-on tux,http://www.supraskytop.biz, but would America really have stood for a dyke in drag,http://www.buygucci.biz, bowtie and all? I swear, I am no fan of...Anna PulleyFollow Anna Pullery on Twitter at
annapulley.
Yesterday Iran's new 24 hour TV channel broadcast a  "documentary" featuring two jailed Iranian Americans, Haleh Esfandiari, of the Woodrow Wilson International Center for Scholars, and Kian Tajbakhsh, a consultant to the Open Society Institute. Both are being held in Evin prison. Esfandiari had been robbed of her passport in December while visiting her ailing 93 year old mother in Tehran, and since then has been undergoing interrogation by Iran's secret police, then house arrrest, and for the past 70 days, solitary confinement in Iran's notorious Evin prison. The 63 year old grandmother had run programs at the Woodrow Wilson Center that sought more than any other think tank I am aware of to promote US-Iran engagement. Its president, Lee Hamilton, a co-chair of the Iraq Study Group,  has urged the Bush administration to talk with Iran.
Esfandiari's daugther Haleh Bakhash, a lawyer in Washington, writes in the Washington Post today about her mother's interrogators:Advertise on MotherJones.comAs I watched my mother, I thought ...about the fact that our ordeal has been nothing compared with my mother's: nearly seven months of interrogations; more than 10 weeks in solitary confinement; threats of trial and long years of imprisonment; being alone in the hands of brutal men going about their brutal business.
When the television program ended,http://www.guccisale.biz, I felt contempt for my mother's jailers and interrogators. But I was filled with admiration for my mother. In hugely difficult circumstances, she preserved her dignity, held her head high and did not lie. She did not falsely implicate others. It is her jailers, I thought, who have to work in the dark,gucci handbags, behind the closed doors of prison interrogation rooms. It is they who hide their faces, who try to manipulate public opinion by controlling the media, smearing reputations and dishonestly splicing film.
"My mother has nothing to be ashamed of," Bakhash concludes. "They do."
Related articles:
返回列表